Signs Of Cheating You Must Know

8 Surprising Signs of cheating in a relationship

How do you know if your partner is cheating? Usually, if you're asking this question, you already suspect that you're the victim of infidelity, or at the very least that something is amiss in your relationship. The signs of cheating look different in every relationship, of course, but there are some common threads that you can look for.

People cheat for all kinds of reasons. And cheating doesn't need to mean the end of your relationship, some couples bounce back stronger than ever.
Fortunately, psychologists and behavioral experts say that infidelity usually involves some of the signs of cheating below.

1. Your partner begins to lie more often.
Did one of his coworkers seem surprised to learn your partner was married? Did your partner tell you he was going out with work colleagues when you know that wasn’t the case? "Repeated deception is a sign your partner may be cheating," says Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., a research fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want. "Infidelity usually involves a lot of lying and deception."

2. He passes on dates night or isn't interested in sex.
Stepping away from intimacy can be a red flag. "It signals a giving up or turning away," says Nicolle Zapien, Ph.D., dean and professor of psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies. “The question, then, is why.” If he is cheating, it could be that his emotional or sexual needs are being met elsewhere, meaning he no longer needs to get them from you. I know, ugh.

3. He suddenly takes forever to get ready
"Unless there’s someone important we want to impress on the job or the dress code changed, it’s unlikely that many of us would suddenly enact a 'personal makeover' when we’re working alongside the same people for years," says Degges-White. A newfound interest in his appearance could signal he’s trying to impress someone who isn't you.

 4. They become obsessed with their devices
If they seem to panic when you pick up their phone or laptop and are suddenly trying to control what you can and can’t do on their phone, something is wrong.
"They could be trying to avoid receiving any questionable calls or texts in your presence."
If you have been in a relationship for any length of time, you've had access to emails, texts, contact lists, or more and if they are pulling back from that access, it might be because there are suddenly new names and numbers in those contact lists.
Does your partner takes their phones even with them to the bathroom?
If you notice that your partner is deleting texts and constantly clearing their browsing history, then that may not be a good sign.

5. You notice strange expenses
Spot random charges at a restaurant near his work that you’ve never heard of? See random Amazon purchases that aren’t yours or his? Unexplained expenses aren’t always a sign he’s cheating, but they can be suspicious, says Zapien.

6. He/she keep mentioning someone else's name
Think that if your partner were cheating you’d have no idea who the other person was? Not always the case. "If a new name keeps bubbling up into the stories your spouse is sharing, there’s a possibility that the person attached to the new name is bubbling up into your spouse’s work life and private life, too," says Degges-White. No matter how old a person might be, when they fall into a deep infatuation, they have a hard time not talking about the object of their adoration.

7. You hardly find them or reach them
Couples that have been together for a while tend to know each other's schedule. When people are deceptive about their whereabouts or make excuses for why plans changed, things aren't good. If you can't find them or reach them, there might be a reason for that and it's because they don't want you to.
If they stop sharing about their day or their whereabouts, something may be up. This can be more devastating than sexual infidelity as it implies the intimacy of day to day life is now being shared with someone new

8. You just know.
Ever just *feel* like you know something’s off? If you’ve seen other signs that could signal cheating and the feeling is sticking with you, go with it: experts say that intuition can be a powerful tool in decision making. "We often ignore these intuitions only to have them confirmed later," says Zapien.

What to do.

As we all know, everyone and every relationship is different, so while these
signs may be linked to cheating, they can't prove that your partner is unfaithful. Instead, they could be signs that your partner is suffering, sad, or that you're insecure in the relationship for another reason. Regardless, if something is "off" it's worth discussing the issue with your Partner.