9 Questions Couples Should Always Asked One Another Constantly

9 questions couples asked one another

One of the best way of increasing your bond with your partner is to ask meaningful questions and be fully present in conversations.
Here are some of the best questions, but before you begin, two things. One: be intentional. Set aside time (start with 20 minutes) where you can focus on your partner without any distractions and shut off the TV and put the cell phones in silent.
Two: Let yourself be vulnerable. It's a pathway to intimacy and it helps you build and maintain trust.

 1. What is your best and worst memory of your childhood?

Talking about your childhood experiences, both the positive and the things that hurt you can give your partner insight into what has shaped you as an adult. Knowing his beliefs can bring more understanding and appreciation of your husband's beliefs, ways of being, and differences.

 2. List your three biggest needs, and how can I fulfill them?

One of the best ways to make sure your spouse feels satisfied and connected is to fulfill his needs. Think about the things that are essential to feeling happy in your relationship, and give your guy specific ways that he can meet your needs. This doesn’t mean he is at your beck-and-call, but when he does things that are important to you, how could you not feel even closer?

 3. Of your friends and family, who do you think has the best relationship and why?

Sometimes people have a hard time articulating what they want or need in a relationship, but they can recognize it when they see it in another couple.

 4. What is the best part about us being together?

As time passes, you grow together as a couple. You’ll continue to experience new things as a couple and your answers may change as the years go by. Revisit this one frequently.

 5. What kinds of things do I do that annoy you, and what kinds of behaviors do you think I should stop or modify?

You can hope that your partner is honest with you about your behaviors that bother them. This isn’t always so. Some people are conflict avoidant and they ignore these actions, only to have feelings come out in resentment or a rage later. It might hurt our feminine ego, but it’s not realistic to believe that we won’t annoy our husband, even unintentionally. Being proactive can help minimize unnecessary negativity.

 6. Does anything keep you awake at night that you haven’t shared with me?

Sometimes your partner may keep something from you because they don’t want to burden you with their troubles, knowing you have enough stress of your own. When you know each other’s stressors, you can provide support, understanding, and empathy.

 7. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing but haven’t yet? What’s prevented you from doing this?

Your husband may have different dreams than when you first met him. That's okay. Asking this question gives you insight into what he wants and what's blocks him from achieving his dreams. You want to be your spouse’s biggest supporter in reaching his goals.

 8. Why do you love me? And when did you feel most loved by me?

It's easy to say the three words "i love you", thinking that might be enough. But knowing why reminds your partner that you recognize their unique qualities. Also, people love differently and thus they feel loved differently. Differences are inevitable, but it’s important to have ongoing communication about what you both need to feel the most loved by each other.

 9. What would you consider unforgivable and why?

It’s not surprising for couples to make brief statements like, “If you cheated I would leave you” or “If you blew our savings I would get a divorce.” They don’t talk in-depth about the pain that they would feel and why. Knowing in greater detail what would deeply hurt your husband can bring a dose of reality and help protect your relationship.